I’m in my fifties. My relationship with my skin, my scent, my routines โ all of it has changed, and keeps changing.
Menopause does things to your skin that nobody really prepared me for. Cataract surgery made me rethink my entire cleansing routine. And the beauty industry, which has historically talked almost exclusively to women in their twenties and thirties, is only slowly catching up with what women over 50 actually need.
So I write about that honestly. What works for skin that’s changing. What the beauty industry gets right and wrong about ageing. The Asian skincare philosophy I grew up with, handed down from my mother โ and now, because Asian beauty is everywhere, my daughters can experience it too. We share our discoveries, and that is a joy of new shared experience I didn’t expect.
The fragrances that smell different at 55 than they did at 25 โ and why that’s not a problem, it’s a blessing. Scents I’ve loved transport me to a particular time. New scents mark a new era.
This is not a site about fighting age. It’s a site about navigating it with as much knowledge, pleasure and good scent as possible.
What you’ll find here
Fragrance โ reviews, recommendations, gift guides, and the occasional meditation on why a particular scent matters.
Skincare for women over 50 โ honest reviews, ingredient deep-dives, and the things I’ve actually learned from my own skin’s changing needs โ including the products I discovered during cataract surgery recovery that I now use every day.
Asian beauty wisdom โ I’m Taiwanese-British, and I grew up with handed-down wisdom from my mother. I’ve spent years seeking out Japanese skincare, researching the premium brands she preferred, and exploring Asian beauty philosophy before finally embracing it fully. It was worth the wait.
Longevity and wellbeing โ my mother and father have both passed on, and losing them made me realise how much I had taken my health for granted.
That loss gave me a quiet determination to live as fully as I can โ with mindfulness of body, mind and spirit. Not in a relentless self-optimisation way. In a “this is what’s actually making me feel better at this age” way.
Life at home โ food, the garden, the cats, the things that make ordinary days feel considered and good.
A note on why I write
I write because I couldn’t find what I was looking for.
When I was recovering from cataract surgery, I searched for beauty advice written by someone who’d actually been through it. I found almost nothing. When I was navigating menopausal skin changes, I wanted someone who understood both the science and the pleasure of skincare โ not just a list of products. When I wanted to understand Asian beauty philosophy from the inside rather than as a trend, I had to piece it together myself.
So I write it. For myself, and for anyone else who’s looking for the same thing and can’t quite find it.
If that’s you โ welcome. Pull up a chair. There’s a lot to talk about.
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My mother used to make her own skincare from rice. not quite understanding why, just that her skin looked fresh, clean. Decades later, I’ve found three serums that finally explain it.
There’s a skincare memory I keep coming back to.
My mother using rice โ actual rice, from the kitchen โ as part of her beauty routine. She would wash her face with the rice water collected every evening before cooking our meals. I was a child and I didn’t understand it then. I just noticed that her skin had a quality I couldn’t name. A luminosity. A calmness.
I’ve been thinking about that memory a lot recently, because I’ve been using the Beauty of Joseon serum range for the past few months and there’s something in them that feels like a homecoming. An acknowledgment that the ingredient my mother trusted in her kitchen was not a home remedy but a centuries- old truth that Korean skincare has been quietly building on all along.
Science is now confirming what my mother knew
For generations across East and Southeast Asia, rice water has been used as a skin tonic. Women rinsed their faces with it, soaked cotton pads in it, used it as the basis for homemade skincare. The wisdom was handed down rather than written down.
What we know now โ what the formulations in Beauty of Joseon make visible โ is that rice bran water is rich in amino acids, minerals and antioxidants that hydrate, soothe and brighten skin. The Glow Deep Serum, which I’ll come to shortly, is 68% rice bran water. Not a trace ingredient. The foundation of the entire formula.
Why I started looking at Korean skincare
Twenty-five years ago, the skincare I admired โ the essences and serums associated with the luminous, hydrated skin I wanted โ came from Japanese luxury brands. Kanebo was the benchmark. The formulations were extraordinary. The price point, for someone with a young family and a kitchen table business, was not accessible.
So I improvised with what I had. Traditional approaches. Home remedies. Instinctively, SPF on my face to avoid freckles in the sun, which I’m grateful for now.
Korean skincare has changed everything about this. In the last few years it has arrived properly on the UK market โ not just in specialist shops but on high streets, in pharmacies, on mainstream beauty sites โ bringing with it sophisticated, well-researched formulations at prices that feel almost suspiciously reasonable given what they contain.
Beauty of Joseon is where I landed. And I want to tell you honestly what I’ve found.
The three serums I rotate โ and why I rotate them
I don’t use all three every day. I rotate them depending on what my skin seems to need, which changes with the weather, with how much sleep I’ve had, with how demanding the week has been. The rotation is the point โ each serum does something slightly different, and together they cover most of what my skin in its fifties actually requires.
Glow Serum โ Propolis + Niacinamide
This is the one I reach for now in the mornings.
Propolis โ the resinous substance bees use to seal their hives โ has been used in Korean skincare for its antimicrobial and healing properties. Combined with niacinamide, which works to even skin tone and refine texture, this serum has become my daily baseline.
What I notice: it gives my skin a healthy, settled quality before I apply anything else. Not a glow in the obvious sense โ more a sense that my skin looks like it got enough sleep, even when I didn’t. It’s lightweight, it absorbs quickly, and it doesn’t pill under SPF or makeup.
I’m using this now in the mornings and it’s worth noting that niacinamide is stable in light โ so morning use is perfectly fine for this one. You can order it here
Glow Deep Serum โ Rice + Alpha Arbutin
This is the one that connects most directly to my mother’s rice water rituals โ and the one that has surprised me most.
It’s formulated with 68% rice bran water and 2% alpha-arbutin, targeting pigmentation and uneven skin tone. Alpha arbutin works by inhibiting melanin production โ which is what causes dark spots and uneven tone to develop and deepen.
I had been using The Ordinary’s version of the serum and it was great, but I was curious about the Korean version of the ingredient, coupled with rice water.
I want to be honest: I haven’t taken before and after photos. What I can tell you is that there was a sunspot on my nose that I’d had for years and had accepted, having tried various age spot serums including expensive ones from premium beauty brands.
Now, it seems to have faded significantly. I still have some stubborn ones on my forehead and a couple of age spots on the top of my cheeks that I’m working on โ but the overall tone of my skin looks more even than it did six months ago.
Alpha arbutin and rice extracts are genuinely quite gentle, making this serum safe for sensitive skin types. This matters to me because some brightening ingredients โ vitamin C at high percentages, for example โ can be irritating on skin that’s already dealing with the sensitivity that comes with hormonal change.
I should confess something here.
I had been using this serum in the mornings โ happily, without question โ for several months. It was only when I sat down to write this post and started researching the ingredients properly that I discovered alpha arbutin is best used in the evening, as it can be vulnerable to light and heat. (I don’t think this was mentioned in The Ordinary’s version so I assumed it would be ok with this one.
The reason I hadn’t noticed? The instructions on the packaging are in a font size that, post-cataract surgery, I simply cannot read without my reading glasses. Before my operation, being short-sighted meant I could read tiny text with no difficulty at all โ I was practically built for small print. Now I can see across a room perfectly, but the guidance on a skincare bottle requires a separate expedition to locate my glasses for very small print – under 8pt to be precise.
The reading glasses are now living in my skincare drawer, since most product information seems to be in a font that’s too small to read without glasses now.
There’s something rather ironic about this โ and perhaps something beauty brands should think about. Women over fifty are your fastest-growing skincare audience. We are also, many of us, navigating vision changes that make the small print on packaging genuinely inaccessible. Larger text on labels would not go amiss.
In any case: if you’re starting with the Glow Deep Serum, go straight to evenings. My research did the work so yours doesn’t have to.
If you’d like to read the full story of my cataract surgery and what it taught me about skincare โ including the waterless cleansing routine I now use every day โ that post is here
The texture of this serum, I should add, is silky in a way that feels genuinely different from most serums I’ve tried. It sinks in without leaving any tackiness. My skin feels soft rather than tackyโ which is exactly the right sensation for skin that’s been working hard all day.
Calming Serum โ Green Tea + Panthenol
This is my rescue serum.
I live in Britain. My skin knows it. The combination of central heating, cold wind, and the particular damp grey quality of an English winter does something to mature skin. For many years, I seemed to have skin that would bounce back from harsh cleansing or topical scrubs, in fact I loved the clean feeling it gave me, but now . Redness. Tightness. A general sense of protest.
The Calming Serumis what I reach for when that happens. Green tea is a well-established anti-inflammatory in skincare โ it calms redness and protects against environmental stress. Panthenol (provitamin B5) supports the skin barrier and helps it hold onto moisture.
Together they work quickly. Not dramatically โ this isn’t the serum version of a cold compress โ but within the time it takes to finish getting ready, the redness has settled and my skin feels like itself again.
These are not aggressive serums. They’re not going to produce dramatic results in a week. If you’re looking for the kind of transformation that changes your face in a fortnight, these aren’t that. What they do is work steadily, gently, and consistently โ which is, I’ve come to believe, exactly how skin in its fifties wants to be treated.
Not pushed. Nourished.
A note on price and where to find them
This is where Korean skincare genuinely changes the conversation. These serums are available in the UK through Lookfantastic, Cult Beauty and Amazon, typically in the ยฃ10โยฃ18 range each. For the quality of formulation โ the ingredient percentages, the research behind them, the results I’ve experienced โ that feels almost unreasonably good value.
The full circle
I started this post thinking about my mother and her rice water rituals. I’m ending it thinking about my daughters โ one of whom has already borrowed my Calming Serum and declared it “actually good, Mum, genuinely.”
There’s something in that continuity that I find quietly moving. The wisdom my mother handed down without explaining it, now available in beautifully packaged bottles on a UK high street, now being passed on to the next generation who will discover their own relationship with these ingredients.
Rice water. Centuries of it. Finally in a serum I can afford and my daughter will steal.
Have you tried Beauty of Joseon โ or any Korean skincare that’s become a non-negotiable for you? And do you have memories of traditional skincare ingredients from your own family? I’d love to hear in the comments below.
And if any of the vision or packaging observations resonated โ or if you’ve had your own post-surgery skincare discoveries โ tell me that too. These are exactly the conversations I started this blog to have.
A lipstick I discovered at a Chanel counter in Selfridges on the morning of my wedding day. Worn to every job interview since. And the thing that got me through cataract surgery recovery when I couldn't wear anything else. This is my story of a twenty-five year love.
There is a distinct vulnerability that comes with eye surgery.
When I underwent cataract surgery earlier this year, my immediate focus was understandably on healing. But as the initial days passed and I prepared to step back into my working routine โ a calendar packed with in-person client meetings and many Microsoft Teams calls โ It struck me that there would be a month where I would not be able to wear any eye make-up while my eye was healing from the surgery.
To some, this might sound trivial. But in a professional setting, our outward presentation is deeply intertwined with our internal armour. For me, preparing for the day isn’t just about reviewing my meeting notes โ it is a ritual of readiness. Walking into a meeting room or opening a Teams call without a finished face felt like showing up to a presentation missing half my slides. I would lose my usual baseline of professional confidence.
The psychology of the power pout
Psychologists call this “enclothed cognition” โ the idea that the rituals of what we wear and apply can trigger real psychological changes in how we think, feel and perform. Cosmetics function as a kind of mental switch, signalling to our brains that it is time to lead, speak and connect. Research into what’s known as the “Lipstick Effect” consistently shows that even a single piece of makeup can meaningfully boost a person’s sense of self-esteem during challenging times.
Unable to touch my eyes, I made a decision: I would let my lips be the focal point. One powerful element, doing the heavy lifting for my entire face.
At a time such as this, there is only one lipstick that has the magic to make me feel complete – Chanel Rouge Coco in Lรฉgende
A story that begins twenty-five years ago
This year, my husband and I are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary. The story of this lipstick begins on that day.
Like many brides, I felt deeply uncomfortable with the idea of someone else doing my makeup on the most important morning of my life. Wanting to feel entirely like myself, I booked two bridal makeup lessons in August 2000 to design my own look.
My first stop was the department store House of Fraser, where they have a specialist make-up studio. This introduced me to a product that changed my beauty life: Kanebo’s 38ยฐC mascara, now called Sensai 38ยฐC, still as good as ever. As anyone with short, straight Asian lashes knows, mascaras are notoriously prone to smudging. The thermo-sensitive formula was absolute magic. I also left with a beautiful โ if rather dazzling โ bright pink eyeshadow.
Which immediately created a new problem. Try as I might, I couldn’t find a lipstick that balanced it. Something that worked with my skin tone without tipping into overdone.
So I went to my second lesson: the Chanel counter at Selfridges London.
I happened to get incredibly lucky. The makeup artist running my session was a man named Olivier โ I remembered he mentioned he had just finished the runway shows, clearly talented, and seemed genuinely interested, asking me about what hair style, the gown, if I’d picked out a colour scheme for the wedding. He understood my skin immediately. For Asian skin tones with a cool, pinkish undertone like mine, finding a pink that doesn’t wash you out is a genuine exercise in frustration. Olivier took one look at me and handed me Lรฉgende โ a fresh, luminous satin pink that tied everything together perfectly.
I was so spellbound that I had the biggest beauty haul of my life that afternoon. The eyeshadow, the blush, the concealer, and that lipstick.
That look became my wedding day. And Lรฉgende became mine.
The scarcity that isn’t really about lipstick
I want to tell you something about the kind of person I am.
I hate running out of things. Genuinely, deeply hate it. My house is too full โ I know this. I keep more than I need of almost everything, and I’ve spent a long time understanding why.
My parents were children when they fled China in the 1950s and went to live in Taiwan. They lost almost everything. My mother once told me about the journey. Her mother โ my grandmother โ would tell her to collect the grains of rice from the ground around them as they travelled, adding each one to their small store so the family could eat. I still think about what they endured to give us what we have today.
That particular fear โ of scarcity, of the things you rely on simply not being there anymore โ is the kind that gets passed down through families without anyone quite meaning to pass it on. It lives in the body before it lives in the mind.
For me, it expresses itself in making sure I always have enough. Always.
With Lรฉgende, I have a system: I reorder when I reach around one third of the tube remaining. It never failed me. I always had it.
Until about two years ago, when I went to reorder and found it simply wasn’t there. Discontinued.
For the first time in twenty-five years, I had one tube left and nowhere to get another.
I’ll admit something else: I have worn Lรฉgende to every single job interview I’ve ever had. It grounds me. It makes me feel unshakable. The idea of facing stressful professional moments without it is unsettling in a way that feels disproportionate โ until I understood that it wasn’t really about the lipstick at all.
What recovery taught me
So during my cataract surgery recovery โ bare eyes, full professional calendar, one month of enforced simplicity โ I decided something. I was going to wear my remaining Lรฉgende properly. Every day. Not carefully, not sparingly. Fully.
Because some things are not for saving.
Every morning before a major client meeting, I twisted up Lรฉgende and applied it. And something interesting happened. My recovery month taught me that beauty is more fluid than I’d understood. Standing tall in front of peers and clients doesn’t require a full face โ sometimes it just requires one thing that connects you to your strongest self.
The physical act of twisting up that lipstick โ the weight of the black and gold casing, the specific click of it โ is a direct line to my wedding morning. To Olivier at the Selfridges counter. To the best day of my life. That memory might soften with time. The physical connection never does.
The ending I didn’t expect
A few weeks ago, on a quiet evening, I went looking online again. Half expecting nothing.
Chanel had rereleased Lรฉgende. Same shade. Same distinctive black and gold packaging. Exactly as it had been.
I can’t quite tell you how happy this made me. It felt disproportionate, and then I remembered โ it was never really about the lipstick. It was about the thing the lipstick represents. Twenty-five years of showing up. Of feeling like myself. Of never running out.
I’ve ordered two.
A note on Lรฉgende for Asian skin tones
If you’re reading this with a cool or neutral undertone โ and particularly if you have Asian colouring โ I want to be specific about why this shade works when so many pinks don’t.
Most pinks marketed as “universally flattering” lean warm, which can make cooler skin tones look sallow or washed out. Lรฉgende sits in a rare middle ground: cool enough to complement a pinkish undertone, luminous enough to add warmth without adding yellow. Olivier was right twenty-five years ago. I’ve never found anything that comes as close.
If you’ve been looking for your pink โ this might be it.
Chanel Rouge Coco in Lรฉgende is available now at chanel.com and at Chanel counters nationwide.
If this resonated with you โ a beloved product lost and found, a scent or shade that holds a memory โ I’d love to hear your story in the comments. These are the conversations I started this blog to have.
And if you’d like to read about my full cataract surgery skincare journey โ what I discovered, what changed permanently, and the products that got me through โ that post is here:ย [link to cataract surgery article]
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