I’m in my fifties. My relationship with my skin, my scent, my routines โ all of it has changed, and keeps changing.
Menopause does things to your skin that nobody really prepared me for. Cataract surgery made me rethink my entire cleansing routine. And the beauty industry, which has historically talked almost exclusively to women in their twenties and thirties, is only slowly catching up with what women over 50 actually need.
So I write about that honestly. What works for skin that’s changing. What the beauty industry gets right and wrong about ageing. The Asian skincare philosophy I grew up with, handed down from my mother โ and now, because Asian beauty is everywhere, my daughters can experience it too. We share our discoveries, and that is a joy of new shared experience I didn’t expect.
The fragrances that smell different at 55 than they did at 25 โ and why that’s not a problem, it’s a blessing. Scents I’ve loved transport me to a particular time. New scents mark a new era.
This is not a site about fighting age. It’s a site about navigating it with as much knowledge, pleasure and good scent as possible.
What you’ll find here
Fragrance โ reviews, recommendations, gift guides, and the occasional meditation on why a particular scent matters.
Skincare for women over 50 โ honest reviews, ingredient deep-dives, and the things I’ve actually learned from my own skin’s changing needs โ including the products I discovered during cataract surgery recovery that I now use every day.
Asian beauty wisdom โ I’m Taiwanese-British, and I grew up with handed-down wisdom from my mother. I’ve spent years seeking out Japanese skincare, researching the premium brands she preferred, and exploring Asian beauty philosophy before finally embracing it fully. It was worth the wait.
Longevity and wellbeing โ my mother and father have both passed on, and losing them made me realise how much I had taken my health for granted.
That loss gave me a quiet determination to live as fully as I can โ with mindfulness of body, mind and spirit. Not in a relentless self-optimisation way. In a “this is what’s actually making me feel better at this age” way.
Life at home โ food, the garden, the cats, the things that make ordinary days feel considered and good.
A note on why I write
I write because I couldn’t find what I was looking for.
When I was recovering from cataract surgery, I searched for beauty advice written by someone who’d actually been through it. I found almost nothing. When I was navigating menopausal skin changes, I wanted someone who understood both the science and the pleasure of skincare โ not just a list of products. When I wanted to understand Asian beauty philosophy from the inside rather than as a trend, I had to piece it together myself.
So I write it. For myself, and for anyone else who’s looking for the same thing and can’t quite find it.
If that’s you โ welcome. Pull up a chair. There’s a lot to talk about.
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My mother used to make her own skincare from rice. not quite understanding why, just that her skin looked fresh, clean. Decades later, I’ve found three serums that finally explain it.
There’s a skincare memory I keep coming back to.
My mother using rice โ actual rice, from the kitchen โ as part of her beauty routine. She would wash her face with the rice water collected every evening before cooking our meals. I was a child and I didn’t understand it then. I just noticed that her skin had a quality I couldn’t name. A luminosity. A calmness.
I’ve been thinking about that memory a lot recently, because I’ve been using the Beauty of Joseon serum range for the past few months and there’s something in them that feels like a homecoming. An acknowledgment that the ingredient my mother trusted in her kitchen was not a home remedy but a centuries- old truth that Korean skincare has been quietly building on all along.
Science is now confirming what my mother knew
For generations across East and Southeast Asia, rice water has been used as a skin tonic. Women rinsed their faces with it, soaked cotton pads in it, used it as the basis for homemade skincare. The wisdom was handed down rather than written down.
What we know now โ what the formulations in Beauty of Joseon make visible โ is that rice bran water is rich in amino acids, minerals and antioxidants that hydrate, soothe and brighten skin. The Glow Deep Serum, which I’ll come to shortly, is 68% rice bran water. Not a trace ingredient. The foundation of the entire formula.
Why I started looking at Korean skincare
Twenty-five years ago, the skincare I admired โ the essences and serums associated with the luminous, hydrated skin I wanted โ came from Japanese luxury brands. Kanebo was the benchmark. The formulations were extraordinary. The price point, for someone with a young family and a kitchen table business, was not accessible.
So I improvised with what I had. Traditional approaches. Home remedies. Instinctively, SPF on my face to avoid freckles in the sun, which I’m grateful for now.
Korean skincare has changed everything about this. In the last few years it has arrived properly on the UK market โ not just in specialist shops but on high streets, in pharmacies, on mainstream beauty sites โ bringing with it sophisticated, well-researched formulations at prices that feel almost suspiciously reasonable given what they contain.
Beauty of Joseon is where I landed. And I want to tell you honestly what I’ve found.
The three serums I rotate โ and why I rotate them
I don’t use all three every day. I rotate them depending on what my skin seems to need, which changes with the weather, with how much sleep I’ve had, with how demanding the week has been. The rotation is the point โ each serum does something slightly different, and together they cover most of what my skin in its fifties actually requires.
Glow Serum โ Propolis + Niacinamide
This is the one I reach for now in the mornings.
Propolis โ the resinous substance bees use to seal their hives โ has been used in Korean skincare for its antimicrobial and healing properties. Combined with niacinamide, which works to even skin tone and refine texture, this serum has become my daily baseline.
What I notice: it gives my skin a healthy, settled quality before I apply anything else. Not a glow in the obvious sense โ more a sense that my skin looks like it got enough sleep, even when I didn’t. It’s lightweight, it absorbs quickly, and it doesn’t pill under SPF or makeup.
I’m using this now in the mornings and it’s worth noting that niacinamide is stable in light โ so morning use is perfectly fine for this one. You can order it here
Glow Deep Serum โ Rice + Alpha Arbutin
This is the one that connects most directly to my mother’s rice water rituals โ and the one that has surprised me most.
It’s formulated with 68% rice bran water and 2% alpha-arbutin, targeting pigmentation and uneven skin tone. Alpha arbutin works by inhibiting melanin production โ which is what causes dark spots and uneven tone to develop and deepen.
I had been using The Ordinary’s version of the serum and it was great, but I was curious about the Korean version of the ingredient, coupled with rice water.
I want to be honest: I haven’t taken before and after photos. What I can tell you is that there was a sunspot on my nose that I’d had for years and had accepted, having tried various age spot serums including expensive ones from premium beauty brands.
Now, it seems to have faded significantly. I still have some stubborn ones on my forehead and a couple of age spots on the top of my cheeks that I’m working on โ but the overall tone of my skin looks more even than it did six months ago.
Alpha arbutin and rice extracts are genuinely quite gentle, making this serum safe for sensitive skin types. This matters to me because some brightening ingredients โ vitamin C at high percentages, for example โ can be irritating on skin that’s already dealing with the sensitivity that comes with hormonal change.
I should confess something here.
I had been using this serum in the mornings โ happily, without question โ for several months. It was only when I sat down to write this post and started researching the ingredients properly that I discovered alpha arbutin is best used in the evening, as it can be vulnerable to light and heat. (I don’t think this was mentioned in The Ordinary’s version so I assumed it would be ok with this one.
The reason I hadn’t noticed? The instructions on the packaging are in a font size that, post-cataract surgery, I simply cannot read without my reading glasses. Before my operation, being short-sighted meant I could read tiny text with no difficulty at all โ I was practically built for small print. Now I can see across a room perfectly, but the guidance on a skincare bottle requires a separate expedition to locate my glasses for very small print – under 8pt to be precise.
The reading glasses are now living in my skincare drawer, since most product information seems to be in a font that’s too small to read without glasses now.
There’s something rather ironic about this โ and perhaps something beauty brands should think about. Women over fifty are your fastest-growing skincare audience. We are also, many of us, navigating vision changes that make the small print on packaging genuinely inaccessible. Larger text on labels would not go amiss.
In any case: if you’re starting with the Glow Deep Serum, go straight to evenings. My research did the work so yours doesn’t have to.
If you’d like to read the full story of my cataract surgery and what it taught me about skincare โ including the waterless cleansing routine I now use every day โ that post is here
The texture of this serum, I should add, is silky in a way that feels genuinely different from most serums I’ve tried. It sinks in without leaving any tackiness. My skin feels soft rather than tackyโ which is exactly the right sensation for skin that’s been working hard all day.
Calming Serum โ Green Tea + Panthenol
This is my rescue serum.
I live in Britain. My skin knows it. The combination of central heating, cold wind, and the particular damp grey quality of an English winter does something to mature skin. For many years, I seemed to have skin that would bounce back from harsh cleansing or topical scrubs, in fact I loved the clean feeling it gave me, but now . Redness. Tightness. A general sense of protest.
The Calming Serumis what I reach for when that happens. Green tea is a well-established anti-inflammatory in skincare โ it calms redness and protects against environmental stress. Panthenol (provitamin B5) supports the skin barrier and helps it hold onto moisture.
Together they work quickly. Not dramatically โ this isn’t the serum version of a cold compress โ but within the time it takes to finish getting ready, the redness has settled and my skin feels like itself again.
These are not aggressive serums. They’re not going to produce dramatic results in a week. If you’re looking for the kind of transformation that changes your face in a fortnight, these aren’t that. What they do is work steadily, gently, and consistently โ which is, I’ve come to believe, exactly how skin in its fifties wants to be treated.
Not pushed. Nourished.
A note on price and where to find them
This is where Korean skincare genuinely changes the conversation. These serums are available in the UK through Lookfantastic, Cult Beauty and Amazon, typically in the ยฃ10โยฃ18 range each. For the quality of formulation โ the ingredient percentages, the research behind them, the results I’ve experienced โ that feels almost unreasonably good value.
The full circle
I started this post thinking about my mother and her rice water rituals. I’m ending it thinking about my daughters โ one of whom has already borrowed my Calming Serum and declared it “actually good, Mum, genuinely.”
There’s something in that continuity that I find quietly moving. The wisdom my mother handed down without explaining it, now available in beautifully packaged bottles on a UK high street, now being passed on to the next generation who will discover their own relationship with these ingredients.
Rice water. Centuries of it. Finally in a serum I can afford and my daughter will steal.
Have you tried Beauty of Joseon โ or any Korean skincare that’s become a non-negotiable for you? And do you have memories of traditional skincare ingredients from your own family? I’d love to hear in the comments below.
And if any of the vision or packaging observations resonated โ or if you’ve had your own post-surgery skincare discoveries โ tell me that too. These are exactly the conversations I started this blog to have.
A lipstick I discovered at a Chanel counter in Selfridges on the morning of my wedding day. Worn to every job interview since. And the thing that got me through cataract surgery recovery when I couldn't wear anything else. This is my story of a twenty-five year love.
There is a distinct vulnerability that comes with eye surgery.
When I underwent cataract surgery earlier this year, my immediate focus was understandably on healing. But as the initial days passed and I prepared to step back into my working routine โ a calendar packed with in-person client meetings and many Microsoft Teams calls โ It struck me that there would be a month where I would not be able to wear any eye make-up while my eye was healing from the surgery.
To some, this might sound trivial. But in a professional setting, our outward presentation is deeply intertwined with our internal armour. For me, preparing for the day isn’t just about reviewing my meeting notes โ it is a ritual of readiness. Walking into a meeting room or opening a Teams call without a finished face felt like showing up to a presentation missing half my slides. I would lose my usual baseline of professional confidence.
The psychology of the power pout
Psychologists call this “enclothed cognition” โ the idea that the rituals of what we wear and apply can trigger real psychological changes in how we think, feel and perform. Cosmetics function as a kind of mental switch, signalling to our brains that it is time to lead, speak and connect. Research into what’s known as the “Lipstick Effect” consistently shows that even a single piece of makeup can meaningfully boost a person’s sense of self-esteem during challenging times.
Unable to touch my eyes, I made a decision: I would let my lips be the focal point. One powerful element, doing the heavy lifting for my entire face.
At a time such as this, there is only one lipstick that has the magic to make me feel complete – Chanel Rouge Coco in Lรฉgende
A story that begins twenty-five years ago
This year, my husband and I are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary. The story of this lipstick begins on that day.
Like many brides, I felt deeply uncomfortable with the idea of someone else doing my makeup on the most important morning of my life. Wanting to feel entirely like myself, I booked two bridal makeup lessons in August 2000 to design my own look.
My first stop was the department store House of Fraser, where they have a specialist make-up studio. This introduced me to a product that changed my beauty life: Kanebo’s 38ยฐC mascara, now called Sensai 38ยฐC, still as good as ever. As anyone with short, straight Asian lashes knows, mascaras are notoriously prone to smudging. The thermo-sensitive formula was absolute magic. I also left with a beautiful โ if rather dazzling โ bright pink eyeshadow.
Which immediately created a new problem. Try as I might, I couldn’t find a lipstick that balanced it. Something that worked with my skin tone without tipping into overdone.
So I went to my second lesson: the Chanel counter at Selfridges London.
I happened to get incredibly lucky. The makeup artist running my session was a man named Olivier โ I remembered he mentioned he had just finished the runway shows, clearly talented, and seemed genuinely interested, asking me about what hair style, the gown, if I’d picked out a colour scheme for the wedding. He understood my skin immediately. For Asian skin tones with a cool, pinkish undertone like mine, finding a pink that doesn’t wash you out is a genuine exercise in frustration. Olivier took one look at me and handed me Lรฉgende โ a fresh, luminous satin pink that tied everything together perfectly.
I was so spellbound that I had the biggest beauty haul of my life that afternoon. The eyeshadow, the blush, the concealer, and that lipstick.
That look became my wedding day. And Lรฉgende became mine.
The scarcity that isn’t really about lipstick
I want to tell you something about the kind of person I am.
I hate running out of things. Genuinely, deeply hate it. My house is too full โ I know this. I keep more than I need of almost everything, and I’ve spent a long time understanding why.
My parents were children when they fled China in the 1950s and went to live in Taiwan. They lost almost everything. My mother once told me about the journey. Her mother โ my grandmother โ would tell her to collect the grains of rice from the ground around them as they travelled, adding each one to their small store so the family could eat. I still think about what they endured to give us what we have today.
That particular fear โ of scarcity, of the things you rely on simply not being there anymore โ is the kind that gets passed down through families without anyone quite meaning to pass it on. It lives in the body before it lives in the mind.
For me, it expresses itself in making sure I always have enough. Always.
With Lรฉgende, I have a system: I reorder when I reach around one third of the tube remaining. It never failed me. I always had it.
Until about two years ago, when I went to reorder and found it simply wasn’t there. Discontinued.
For the first time in twenty-five years, I had one tube left and nowhere to get another.
I’ll admit something else: I have worn Lรฉgende to every single job interview I’ve ever had. It grounds me. It makes me feel unshakable. The idea of facing stressful professional moments without it is unsettling in a way that feels disproportionate โ until I understood that it wasn’t really about the lipstick at all.
What recovery taught me
So during my cataract surgery recovery โ bare eyes, full professional calendar, one month of enforced simplicity โ I decided something. I was going to wear my remaining Lรฉgende properly. Every day. Not carefully, not sparingly. Fully.
Because some things are not for saving.
Every morning before a major client meeting, I twisted up Lรฉgende and applied it. And something interesting happened. My recovery month taught me that beauty is more fluid than I’d understood. Standing tall in front of peers and clients doesn’t require a full face โ sometimes it just requires one thing that connects you to your strongest self.
The physical act of twisting up that lipstick โ the weight of the black and gold casing, the specific click of it โ is a direct line to my wedding morning. To Olivier at the Selfridges counter. To the best day of my life. That memory might soften with time. The physical connection never does.
The ending I didn’t expect
A few weeks ago, on a quiet evening, I went looking online again. Half expecting nothing.
Chanel had rereleased Lรฉgende. Same shade. Same distinctive black and gold packaging. Exactly as it had been.
I can’t quite tell you how happy this made me. It felt disproportionate, and then I remembered โ it was never really about the lipstick. It was about the thing the lipstick represents. Twenty-five years of showing up. Of feeling like myself. Of never running out.
I’ve ordered two.
A note on Lรฉgende for Asian skin tones
If you’re reading this with a cool or neutral undertone โ and particularly if you have Asian colouring โ I want to be specific about why this shade works when so many pinks don’t.
Most pinks marketed as “universally flattering” lean warm, which can make cooler skin tones look sallow or washed out. Lรฉgende sits in a rare middle ground: cool enough to complement a pinkish undertone, luminous enough to add warmth without adding yellow. Olivier was right twenty-five years ago. I’ve never found anything that comes as close.
If you’ve been looking for your pink โ this might be it.
Chanel Rouge Coco in Lรฉgende is available now at chanel.com and at Chanel counters nationwide.
If this resonated with you โ a beloved product lost and found, a scent or shade that holds a memory โ I’d love to hear your story in the comments. These are the conversations I started this blog to have.
And if you’d like to read about my full cataract surgery skincare journey โ what I discovered, what changed permanently, and the products that got me through โ that post is here:ย [link to cataract surgery article]
Recovering from cataract surgery required a brief pause in my usual haircare routine. While the procedure itself was quick, the post-operative care required some serious thoughtโespecially when it came to everyday tasks like hair washing.
Having worn contact lenses for years, I was already hyper-aware that getting water into your eyes can introduce unwanted bacteria. Because it is absolutely vital to keep water, soap, and pressure completely away from the healing eye during the first week, the prospect of washing my hair felt incredibly daunting.
Today, I want to share my exact personal experience, the clever safety hacks I used to navigate this transition smoothly, and how I turned a medical restriction into a comforting, holistic self-care ritual.
Post-Op care:
For Waterless Days: A premium, residue-free dry shampoo.
For Shower Day: A snug pair of [Link to Affiliate Swimming Goggles] swimming goggles and cotton wool pads.
If you are nervous about getting your face wet, you do not have to rush into a full wash immediately. Here is the exact, protective routine I used to stay fresh while keeping my healing eye completely dry:
Days 1โ3: Refresh with Dry Shampoo
For the first few days after the operation, I didn’t wash my hair with water at all. Instead, I opted for a high-quality dry shampoo. This completely removed the risk of accidental splashes during those critical early days while keeping my scalp clean and comfortable.
Day 4 Onwards: The Swimming Goggles & “Backward Tilt” hair wash
When it was finally time for a proper wash, I came up with a plan using a pair of swimming goggles I had originally purchased for a beach holiday last year.
Swimming goggles create an excellent physical seal to protect your eyes from stray drops of water or running soap. For an extra layer of safety, I placed a couple of dry cotton wool pads inside the lens area over my treated eye before putting the goggles on.
Once secured, I stepped into the shower, turned completely around so the shower head faced my back, and aimed the water stream carefully while keeping my head tilted firmly backward. This ensured that the water splashed exclusively over my forehead and down my back, draining safely away from my face.
Haircare Tip: I repeated this exact process a month later when I had my second eye operated on, and it worked perfectly both times.
Elevating the Experience with Plant-Powered Care
Once safely in the shower, I wanted to use products that offered genuine therapeutic and botanical benefits. For a very long time, I have been a fan of Avedaโs Botanical Repair range. Built on ancient Ayurvedic philosophies, this collection focuses on holistic balance and uses plant-powered, bond-building technology to naturally strengthen hair without heavy, stripping chemicals.
The aroma alone transforms the bathroom into a spa. It fills the air with a calming, blend of lavender, rosemary, ylang-ylang, and marjoram.
Why I Trust This Range (Especially Post-Menopause)
This range has been my absolute go-to since navigating menopause, a time when I noticed my hair beginning to lose its original thickness, strength, and lustre.
Engineered around a plant-based, triple-layer repair technology, the formula works systematically to restore compromised hair:
The Cortex: Micro-molecules derived from corn or sugarcane penetrate the inner layer of the hair shaft to build structural bonds from within.
The Cuticle: A nourishing macro-green blend of sacha inchi, green tea seed, and avocado oils mimics the hair’s natural outer layer to smooth the cuticle and detangle strands beautifully without heavy silicones.
The F-Layer: Coconut and corn derivatives replicate the hair’s outermost, water-resistant barrier, locking in a healthy shine and guarding against environmental damage.
I usually shampoo twice. Because the formula is highly concentrated, a very small amount goes an incredibly long way.
My can’t live without product is the Aveda Botanical Repair Leave-In Treatment. It brilliantly acts as a protective conditioner and a styling product all in one. Because it shields hair from heat damage while smoothing frizz perfectly, I find I don’t need to apply any additional styling creams or gelsโkeeping my haircare routine wonderfully simple.
Because you want to minimize any tangles, tugging, or pulling anywhere near your face right now, I use a wide-tooth wooden comb to gently detangle your hair, always working mindfully from the ends up to the roots.
From my motherโs garden to mine
Lavender harvested from the garden
Every time I open these bottles, the herbal aroma instantly reminds me of my childhood home. Growing up, my mother cultivated both rosemary and lavender in our family garden, harvesting them regularly to brew a traditional, homemade hair rinse. She used it on our hair constantly to give it an incredible, healthy shine, but she also knew the functional secrets of those plants: their powerful, natural antibacterial and protective properties.
In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), these two botanical powerhouses represent a beautiful Yin and Yang balance for total scalp health:
Rosemary (Mi Die Xiang ็ฑณ่ฟญ้ฆ): A warming herb known to stimulate the movement of Qi (energy) and blood circulation. In TCM, hair health is a direct reflection of blood vitality. By stimulating the scalp, rosemary delivers essential nutrients directly to the hair follicles.
Lavender (Xun Yi Cao ่ฐ่กฃ่): A cooling, calming herb that clears heat and soothes cutaneous irritation, perfectly balancing the energetic warmth of the rosemary.
Today, I grow both rosemary and lavender in my own garden. At the end of every season, I lovingly harvest the lavender and tie them into fragrant bundles, placing them in vases all around my home. It acts as a completely natural air freshener that feels exceptionally fresh and deeply grounding all at once. In TCM, these ambient botanical scents soothe the Shen(the spirit and mind), making the entire home feel like a peaceful sanctuary during recovery.
A time for patient healing
Recovering from surgery is a gentle reminder that our bodies deserve time, patience, and protection. By pairing the practical safety of swimming goggles with the timeless, plant-powered wisdom passed down by my mother, a simple shower can transcend a medical chore and become a moment of deep healing.
If you are preparing for your own surgery, take it one slow, mindful step at a time. Put on your goggles, tilt your head back, and let nature lend you a helping hand!
Disclaimer: Always follow your specific ophthalmologist’s instructions regarding when you can safely wet your hair and face after surgery, as individual recovery timelines and protocols may vary.
I had a busy work week and last Friday, I found myself heading off to the A&E to have a sebaceous cyst looked at, after the nurse at my GP said they couldnโt help me further after a course of antibiotics the practice had prescribed.
When I finally returned home after the long wait to see one of the consultants, knowing that I had to go back on Saturday, because they couldnโt treat me that day, I turned to my happy place; the roses that I had planted about 3 years ago, now coming beautifully into bloom.
Cutting a few stems and placing them in a vase on my desk made me feel happy, a welcome distraction from hospitals and what that entailed. I cut some rosemary and placed this in a vase so it would sit on my windowsill behind my desk.
The science of the “Happy Place”
We often think of comforting fragrances as a luxury, but modern science proves they are a physiological intervention. There is a profound medical field called Psychoneuroimmunologyโthe study of how our emotional brain interacts directly with our nervous and immune systems.
When we experience sudden trauma or work related stress, our bodies flood with cortisol (the stress hormone). In clinical studies, high cortisol levels have been shown to delay physical wound healing by up to 50%*. It slows down cellular repair and constricts microcirculation.
Scent can be a shortcut straight to the limbic systemโthe brain’s ancient emotional control centre.
So when you inhale an authentic, uplifting botanical fragrance, your brain instantly signals your nervous system to switch off the “fight-or-flight” response. By dropping your cortisol levels, a happy scent physically allows your body to redirect its resources toward cellular recovery and healing.
My garden brings comfort to my mind, and it is also a way to help repair my body.
I have to admit that I had not tended to the roses and only purchased soil improver to ensure the roses would bloom over the coming months and some rose fertiliser, sprinkled around them and raked in.
From Garden to Bottle: Bringing the Antidote Indoors
They are now entering their most beautiful phase of growth, so each morning before doing anything else, I will take a pair of secateurs and give them a light pruning, taking away spent rose heads so that the plants continue to bloom well into autumn.
While I am fortunate to watch Gertrude Jekyll and The Poetโs Wife bloom right outside my window, you donโt need a mature cut-flower garden to harness this therapeutic power. The beauty industry has long looked to these exact heritage botanical profiles to create scents that do more than just make us smell goodโthey alter how we feel.
The roses were an investment – I guess looking back little did I know they are also an act of self-care.
If you are looking to bring this grounding, anti-stress ritual into your daily routine, you can explore it through fragrances such as:
Affordable budget friendly High-Street Everyday Mist: For a light, accessible burst of morning optimism, The Body Shop’s British Rose offers a clean, dewy, straight-from-the-flowerbed freshness that acts as a perfect midday pick-me-up at your desk.
Historic rose scent : To truly replicate the timeless, old-world rose experience, look to L’Occitaneโs classic Rose Eau de Toilette. It beautifully captures the elegant, velvet depth of traditional rose speciesโthe very same historic heritage varieties you can source and plant in your own space via David Austin Roses.
Luxurious and Aromatic: If you want the a sophisticated pairing of floral and herbal notes with white musk,Jo Malone Londonโs Rose & White Musk Absolu is the ultimate luxury. By weaving authentic rosewater with sharp, earthy rosemary, it has a crisp scent that helps with mental clarity.
I wanted to share this post with you as I found that whilst there is plenty of information about what a cataract is and how to treat it in terms of surgery, I found that there was very little written about skincare, make-up for women and how to navigate skincare during the recovery process.
About the surgery – I am very short sighted and as I mentioned in my previous article I relied on multifocal contact lenses and varifocal glasses. But recently, the prescription kept changing so after some appointments with the consultant and optician, I decided to have Multifocal cataract lenses (intraocular lenses or IOLs) paying a premium and going through the surgery through health insurance instead of the NHS in the UK. The procedure would be about a month apart, fist the left eye then right.
Navigating the weeks following cataract surgery meant being careful to follow the advice, antibiotic eye drops that tapered from four times a day down to one.
Navigating hygiene, healing, skincare after Multifocal Lens Surgery
I had given a lot of thought during the lead-up to the operation in terms of how I would need to update my skincare routine. I didn’t want to take any chances during recovery, so I searched for an effective cleanser that did not need water. I found individually wrappedย Neutrogena wipes.
The surgeon said standard care was fine, but in my marketing career, Iโve learned to mitigate any risk is the key to a successful launchโor in this case, a successful recovery.
In fact the recovery in terms of my sight returning was rapid, by the following morning, I could see rom the eye that I had the surgery and within a week, my sight was better than the eye (with contact lens).
It was however a challenge in terms of skincare, because I needed to maintain hygiene by ensuring no water would get into my left eye, having been told for years during my time wearing contact
lenses that tap water included water borne bacteria, I wasn’t going to take any chances until my eye had fully heald. The surgeon avoid getting water in my eye for a week, but I decided I would keep my eyes away from water for at least 2 weeks. And by the final week of my eye-drop schedule, I attempted to return to my “normal” routine.
It was January, and my skin was vulnerable, the cold air outdoors would leave my face feeling taut red and stinging, I realized that returning to my previous routine with water was making my skin taught and uncomfortable. I could start wearing make-up by week 2, but I worried about removing make-up especially any make-up around the eye.
Cleaning without water: Why I Switched to Curel during recovery
This is where my recovery journey turned into a discovery for my daily life. I realised that if my skin was this sensitive during a medical “stress test,” it deserved a more sophisticated, less aggressive approach every single day.
The Mature Skin Revelation On my return from work one evening, I made a quick stop at Boots drug store on my way home and looked for a cleanser that would be gentle and need no water. I had previously used the foaming Curel cleanser, which is very gentle but needed water. I found the brand also has a waterless product called Curel Makeup Cleansing Gel. Instead of water and rubbing, this gel uses Ceramides, which would help to repair the skin barrier while swiping away heavy sunscreen make-up and impurities. The gel is highly effective, and felt like “comforting” sigh of relief to my stressed skin.
A Bee-Powered secret: Using IUNIK propolis for Mature Eye Care
To compliment this, I focussed on the most delicate area: the eyes. I traded my old creams for IUNIK, a Korean brand featuring Propolis. This “bee powered” ingredient isn’t just for healing; it has anti-aging properties. Proplis acts as a natural antimicrobial shield while deeply hydrating to prevent fine lines, a perfect cream to use during the immediate days after surgery.
What started as a necessary skincare routine after surgery has become my go-to for aging gracefully. By treating my mature skin with the gentlest of products, “zero-rub” care required for medical recovery, Iโve found a routine that doesn’t just cleanโit restores.
Visit L’Occitane’s site for Vervine Eau de toilette with new packaging
Hello again,
Itโs been a while since I last shared a scent story here. Life, as it often does, required a bit of a “pivot.” For the past few months, Iโve been navigating a journey that many women face but few talk about in the world of lifestyle and beauty: experiencing Menopause, High Myopia, and Cataract Surgery.
Clarity and Contrast: Navigating Menopause and Cataract Surgery
The last few years have been hectic, helping my daughters find their way through higher education, balancing that with the ever increasing pace of change at work, but always finding personal enjoyment through scent. But as my estrogen levels shifted, so did my sight. I learned that for those of us with high myopia, the “menopause ” can sometimes bring cataracts forward much earlier than expected.
The Reality of Mid-Life Vision Shifts
I found myself like many people, getting older also meant getting reading glasses or in my case a combination of multi-focal contact lenses and high strength multi-focal glasses. It was manageable, but for the last couple of years, I struggled with both near and far sight and couldn’t focus. It was on my last visit to the opticians where during the consultation, the optician told me that I had had the cataracts for years but they had been very small and were gradually getting worse. It was time to get a referral to the GP to get an appointment with a specialist.
Inevitably, surgery was the recommended path forward. If you’re thinking about it and have been delaying the idea of surgery. Speak to your optician, explore the options available and don’t wait for things to get worse. I can honestly say it’s the best decision I made to have cataract surgery.
I opted to use my work private health care insurance to have a better type of lens implants. In the UK, the NHS will provide basic monofocal lenses. So for a small premium, I elected to get the multifocal version, the type that would be very similar to how my contact lenses helped me see things at an intermediate and distance range.
I’ll cover off the process in a different post for another time.
Sensory wellbeing: My Recovery Essentials
During recovery, when I couldn’t wear my usual makeup or even splash my face with water, there was one sense that I leaned on:ย Scent.ย I found myself returning to one of my absolute favorites fromย LโOccitane. There is something about theย LemonVerbenaโand especially theย Verbena with Mintโthat helped lift my spirit. During the short recovery after the cataract surgery, the sharp, zesty “frosted lemonade” scent was the clarity and it became the sensory anchor that helped lift my spirits.
Whatโs Next for The Scented Abode? Iโm relaunching this space not just to talk about perfume, but to explore how we navigate the “mid-life shift” with grace and some helpful information that I’ve learnt. Over the coming months, Iโll be sharing:
The Waterless Cleanse: How I redesigned my skincare routine when water on my face was off-limits.
The “Strong Lip” Phase: How I felt “assembled” when I couldn’t wear eye makeup.
Sensory Weight Loss: How I used citrus scents to help me lose 20kg naturally.
Recovery isn’t just about healing; itโs about rediscovering the world through a new lens. Iโm so glad youโre here to see it (and through the senses of sight and through scent) with me.
If you’re new to this site, welcome. Please explore other content, such as the home made skincare such as the Rosewater toner recipe
Polianthes tuberosa, growing in the garden, flowering late in September this year.
It’s been a while since I last posted anything on this blog. Since my last entry, we’ve been in lock down and during this time, I’ve spent more time in the garden, planting for the joy of watching nature come alive.
In May, I planted 5 tubers of the precious Polyanthes tuberosa ‘The Pearl’ in pots. Instructions were simple, put in pots around 3 inches deep in a sunny spot. I put them into 3 pots and waited. I chose them because the scent was described as highly scented and found in many perfumes
Within a month the tubers started to push through the earth and their leaves began to emerge and grow tall. Out of the 3 pots, only one of the tubers I planted showed small buds and bloomed.
In the early morning, brushing past the bloom, it releases a heady scent which I can only describe as sweet, combining the scents of flowers such as irises, roses, lilacs into one floral scent, that feels like sunshine, almost alcoholic as it hits the back of the throat and nose.
You’ll find it in Monotheme’s Tuberose Eau de Toilette, a budget perfume that is available in Marks & Spencers in the UK or on Amazon.
For more indulgent luxury, I love the new perfume from Chanel, Gabrielle Chanel.
It has a softer citrus start and includes my favourite scent of Grapefruit, Orange Blossom, Jasmine, Ylang-Ylang, and the rich floral scent of tuberose.
Since the flower has now faded and it’s time to dig up the tuber and store it in a warm place inside the house, it will be a long time before it’s possible to plant it in the garden and watch it grow.
It’s the first time I’ve planted this flower this year, so I’m not sure if I’ll be successful in saving the tubers and getting it to flower again and whether it will be possible to enjoy it’s heady scent in the garden next summer.
So for the time being, I’ll be bringing the sunshine scent back now that the days have grown shorter and colder.
It’s been snowing this weekend, in the middle of March! when it’s supposed to be spring. The unpredictable weather has caused all sorts of problems in my garden, the daffodils which were just starting to bloom have all died, and the cherry blossoms are looking all very sorry for the snowy blizzard conditions. Not that I’m complaining too much, the house is warm, and we are enjoying the snowday in watching films on Netflix.
The weather and central heating have made my skin blotchy with dryness. Whenever this occurs, I use a facial oil to boost the level of moisture in my skin. If you’d like to make your own facial oil, there’s an easy recipe here
It boasted many uses, from adding shine and moisture to your hair,ย reducing stretch marks, alleviatingย dry flaking skin, reducing the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, it truly is an amazing multi-purpose oil.
With so many uses, it means that it has reduced the number of products in my bathroom cabinet.
I use it as a light body moisturiser, a quick spritz after a shower means it locks in skin softness and prevents dry, cracked skin. It is so quick; I don’t have to wait for the oil to sink in before getting dressed because it’s a dry oil.
On my hair, I spritz it into my hairbrush after blowdrying so that it protects and adds shine to my hair and seems to make my hair between washes last longer.
On my face, I can use it by mixing it into my moisturiser and add extra oomph to combat the recent cold weather.
The ingredients in the oil all have skin benefits. There are no less than seven botanical oils, sweet almond, camellia, hazelnut, borage, macadamia and argan oils and is free of preservatives, silicone or mineral oils.
The scent of the oil is a warming fragrance like a comfort blanket, or a warm hug and reminds me of vanilla and sandalwood. It is described by the brand as orange blossom, magnolia and sweet vanilla.
Hmm, even though I love making a facial oil because this has so many uses, I think this is going to be a permanent addition to my skin care routine.
L’Occitane’s Vervine Verbena is a sparkling scent that always lifts my spirits.
It’s especially refreshing in the summer, I love its lemon zesty aroma first thing in the morning as it wakes me up the moment a spritz of the perfume hits my skin. It’s like a kick of caffeine without the side effects.
Of course layering the scent with the delicious range available means that the scent lasts all day.
The little tube of hand gel is handy for travel and feels instantly refreshing when rubbed into your hands. I was a little worried that the gel formulation might not be as good to keep my hands moisturised, but it keeps both the scent and moisture. Better still, just a little of the gel goes a very long way and the gorgeous scent has a way of surrounding my desk just after I put some on to make me smile and lift my mood.
It really does feel as if I’m bringing a walk in a lemon grove into the office every time I wear this scent.
In fact, the scent of lemons can have a positive effect on productivity at work. Research findings found that the citrus scent of lemons improved moods and raised levels of a brain chemical linked to executive decision-making and motivation. And whilst it is a little luxury, it is a great reason for me to use this scent every day.
If you enjoyed this post, read about my journey through high Myopia and Menopause Cataracts and how the scent of lemon verbena helped me
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